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Boundaries: What, why, how

When we talk about boundaries, we’re talking about prioritising you and your needs. Doing what you need to do to protect yourself such as saying no to social events you don’t want to go to because you need rest.

Maybe you’re used to people in your life prioritising what they want over what you want?

Perhaps you struggle with work/life balance?

Or find you’re always doing the caring for others to the detriment of yourself?

Ultimately, your boundaries are important because YOU are important.

There is nothing selfish about recognising your needs and protecting yourself from people and situations where your needs don’t get met. It’s a fundamental aspect of self-care (alongside regulating your system and rest). 

These are great books I have enjoyed and recommend to clients wanting to work on setting and maintaining boundaries.

📖 Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab. This insightful, wise, gripping book explores why boundaries are such a necessary element of self-care and how to set (and maintain) healthy boundaries. Relatable and inclusive.

📖 The Set Boundaries Workbook by Nedra Glover Tawwab. Workbook to go with the book above.

📖 Why Has No-One Told Me This Before? by Dr. Julie Smith. Easy-to-digest collection of coping strategies for the ups and downs of life. Written in short, bite-sized entries, you can turn straight to the section you need depending on the challenge you’re facing. Section 5 has some strategies for setting boundaries.

📖 Untamed by Glennon Doyle. Part memoir, part personal development guide. This is a captivating and energising book on overcoming conformity and embracing your best life. Very inspirational book and includes quite a bit on boundaries.

If you would like some more suggestions, feel free to get in touch!

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